Tuesday, May 28, 2013

Teachable Moments With Love--Sportsmanship & Do The Work to Play the Game #1

A teachable moment is a learning opportunity for a child to acquire new information, values, morals, ...
My son attitude has changed in a not so positive way. He is twelve(12) and it seemed the change happened over night. Thus, lately we have had alot of  teachable moments.  I decided to document these life lessons.
Today, was my sons school sports awards program.  I took off work a little early so, he would have enough time to change his clothes and prepare for the event. He was previously excited about the event.  However, he found out that he would not be receiving an award, which he thought, I did not know.  When I arrive at the school to pick him up and ask that he put a littlr pep in his step as we only had a few minutes for him to get ready and get back for the event. He states, "I don't want to go to the awards program." I tell him point blank that he will be attending the program and tel him to head for the door.  He, now pouting and moving slow towards the door asked "do I have to go?" I reply, "Yes!" He starts to mumble under his breath and I hear, "I don't know, why I have to go, I'm not getting nothing"  I knew all along, he was not going to receive an award due to he did not keep up his grades during the season.
He finally got dress.  We sat with some of his friends. The program begins and all the middle school boys were called on stage  as they won the Championship. His friends whom we were sitting with get up and my son is the lone soldier. The boys on stage receive the medals, plaques and certificates and I could see the disappointment in my sons eyes. The girls are then called on stage and receive their medals, plaques and certificates.  Next, the coach talks about those who did the work reap the benefits.  The work is not only winning a race, but doing the work to get in the race. 
As we were leaving the event, my son commented, "I told you I wasn't going to get anything".  I replied, " I knew you were not going to receive an award." He then replied, "then why did we go?"  I informed him, he decided that he wanted to be apart of the team when he asked for my permission to tryout for the team.  He was there in support of his team and although he chose not to do his part in doing his school work to keep up his grades and was not allowed or eligible to participate in the some of the meets.  His teammates deserved his support as they supported him in the meets in which he ran.  Also, that it is not about "receiving".  We talked a little more about the matter and  I think he got it, but only time will tell
Be a teacher when life presents a teachable moment!
-Peace & Happiness
 "Adversity will surface in every life. How we meet it makes the difference."~Marvin J. Ashton (1915-1994)

Saturday, May 25, 2013


Yesterday, was a great day. I spent with friends as we congratulated a man-child take yet another step towards manhood.  He graduated from High School and have received monies to attend several colleges.  What a grat accomplishment!

I then left and went to help celebrate my friends sister-in-law"s 50th Birthday.

Both events were filled with happiness and brought family and friends together.

With everything that has been going on in my life to share in some joy & happiness was just what I needed

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Sunday, May 12, 2013

Mother's Day

I would like to wish all the mother's, those who have stepped in as a mother a Happy Mother's Day!!

My day started rough as I have now a Moody Toody twelve year old son. I was determined, I was going to have a great day and celebrate my role in what God has blessed me as.  Received Mother's Day wishes from friends and another friend invited me to her moms church to see Shirley Caesar.

My son and I visited with a friend of mine and her family and had a wonderful dinner with them that her daughter had prepared for us.  A new mom to a baby girl herself.  After dinner, my son and I ran off to see Shirley Caesar.

Now, yall know it wasn't that easy. My son gave me the blues, "I don't want to go"..."do I have to go?" Taking his slow poking time to get ready and such. He was working a nerve.  This is his usual when we are not doing something he wants to do and some of the time when he works that nerve, I get so frustrated and decide not to do whatever was planned because I just wasn;t up to his behavior and know I would not have a good time due to his attitude,  Well, not this time buddy.  I ignore all of his tactics.  I love Shirley Caesar and I wasn't going to let his nonsence spoil my day.

We arrived, got our seats and he was sour for the first 30 mins of the event.  To my surprise, his attitude changed and I saw him clapping, swaying and tapping his feet. As it was getting late, he had school and I had work the next day. I told him, I believed Pastor Caesar's next song was going to be "No Charge" and that after she sings that we are going to leave to try to get ahead of some of the traffic. I most definetly wanted him to hear her sing that song.

We waited and waited, but unfortunately, she did not sing that song and I though it would have been a great ending song for the evening.  Yall can you believe that child of mine was not ready to go. He wanted to stay to the very end.  I explained that we really needed to get a head start and people from the audience were just taking a stab at singing her song and it was time to go.

He and I made a lasting memory and it turned out to be a great day

Turn someones raining day to a sun shiny one
~Peace & Happiness